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I want to share my thoughts I got this morning and i hope everyone feel free to give comments on this.

Question:
When or how we can actually decide helping is healthy or not in boyfriend-girlfriend relationship?

Given that each one of us has this “pusong mamon” whenever we heard someone pity or in need…much more if that person asked for your help was your -ex. Would you consider helping that person considering you have a girlfriend/boyfriend? Would you lend a hand to your -ex?

Being faithful to your current partner you decided to inform the situation in order to avoid mistrust in the relationship.

Of course in the back of your mind, you expect him/her to understand. But it didn’t turn out that way. He/she is thinking that something might happen if you get involve in your -ex again. Who knows?

Feelings thats once shared before has the possibilty to be lit up again.   What if your partner is out of your sight at the moment and your -ex is just right next to you..do you think nothing will happen? Oh come on!

In my perspective, there is nothing wrong of helping anyone especially those people who are once became part of your life. But you always have to consider also the feelings and opinions of your partner.

If you really feel pity to your -ex, then make a way that both of you and your partner will not directly involve in helping process.You can always ask someone to help you.

Do not make unnecessary move that could ruin your relationship with your partner kung ayaw mo nang sakit ng ulo.. This is one of the causes of break-ups. Once trust is no longer there, it’s hard to rebuild it again. You’ll be paranoid every now and then. Always has this doubts whenever he/she is out of your sight. Nagging is one of the symptoms. Hate it!

It is very hard to be in a relation when evrythings gone wrong because of wrong decisions. So it is wise enough to think it over and over before you act. And whatever the outcome, just  be ready for it.