Archive for January, 2008

Pseudo Relationship

Para sa mga …..

PARANG KAYO… PERO HINDI …

read this it’s a nice one!! enjoy reading…

She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect.
They met and became lovers in college. They broke up last year but remained to be "friends."

They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure she’s okay. They still date. They still have sex.

They don’t see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each  other but when asked about their situation, she doesn’t know the real score. Even

her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi."

She works in a telecom. He is reviewing for the board. They are in the same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am. He gives her chocolates, flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their friends are suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may overnight inuman? Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila magkaholding hands lagi?

Sila kaya?  

"He hasn’t admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss me.

Parang kami, pero hindi."

They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave him Harry Potter books for his birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfriend to make an ex jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and never talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn’t sure if she heard him correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing she is sure of is her feelings for him. She likes him. And she’s assuming that with what he’s doing to her and with her, he likes her, too. There’s just one hitch: he has a girlfriend!

She is a 28-year-old virgin. He’s a 35-year-old bachelor. Both mountaineers, they became close during their climbs. After a few dates in posh restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make out.

They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe
that "sila na" but then she’s not really sure about it. "We don’t talk about it but it doesn’t really matter," she’d tell her friends. "What’s important is I am enjoying this — whatever it is."

The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo- boyfriends.

Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase
where the persons involved are more than friends, but not
quite lovers.

Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa.

Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.

This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for
different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still
love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. A nd for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.

Testing lang.

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo –usually the guy –may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro."

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

Iba’t ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang.

Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa w ala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom."

Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa
kunwa-kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship
at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.

Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships din ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn’t commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they weren’t ready to commit.

My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."

Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.

But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi.

Una, you can’t ask him to commit. Since it’s not really a relationship, you can’t demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can’t expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself.

Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him?
You can’t be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya.

Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can’t.
Because you’re not sure if he’ll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang.

This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship.

Or if there is a relationship at all. 

Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much?

What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn’t?

What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?

Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan.

Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me," hindi "us."

Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo- relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else.

Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then you’d end up hurting yourself in the process.

Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh.
Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.

But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live
the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.

When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable guy, a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka.

Magpakasaya ka.

Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."

Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo.

Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang siya …

almost, but not quite.

This is without a doubt one of the nicest good luck forwards I have received.

Hope it works for you - and me

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Baguio Trip

HI! hehhe..nakakapagod ang weekend ko..
last sa friday night pumunta ako with office mates sa Baguio.We left here from the office and proceed to Pasay Terminal where Victory Liner located.
Wala lang..just to unwind perhaps..

Since na late kami ng dating and dahil maraming pasenger, naubusan kami ng ticket for 11pm departure sched time namin instead we got 1am. fortunately, becuse of my brilliant idea i was able to ask the dispatcher kung pwede chance passenger kami and fortunately after 2 buses left finally, we are accomodated earlier than our sched bus.

It’s my second time in Baguio actually and was so excited pa rin. So when we got there, I noticed everythings changed and different na unlike before. GOOD and BAD. Good because the city is growing..and the market really booming na while it’s kinda bad and sad to see the place I visited once in my life was now polluted and you will see trash scattered everywhere. If only they strictly implement CLEAN AND GREEN CAMPAIGN.

We first visited the Shrine of Mama Mary then had a little shopping along the way. We went also to Sheperd –am not sure if i spelled the place correctly–but anyway, just a trivia-I was told that the products they sell especially the UBE jam (yummy talaga) was made by prayers. Meaning while making such delicious food, they are praying at the same time. Pink Sister really touched my heart as well, it’s a Cathedral where you can jot down your wishes for yourself and for other people’s intentions and then the sisters will help you pray… and sabi nila it will happen daw talaga whatever you wished for.

Ang dami pa namin pinuntahan na hindi ko napuntahan pa no’ng first visit ko..
At before kami umuwi siyempre hindi namin kinalimutan ang strawberry field sa La Trinidad..kaya lang konting na disappoint ako kasi hindi ko na nakita ang mga flowers doon. Dati kasi may farm din ng mga flowers doon katabi lang din ng mga strawberies..may mga sunflower pa nga doon.but anyway bka kaka harvest lang nila o nilipat lang sa isang lugar..

(inaantok na ko) kaya after 1 day tour Saturday night 11pm Jan. 26, departure time namin from Baguio..grabe super lamig then arrived Pasay by 4:30 am Sunday then safely back home at exactly 6:35 am..whole day sleeping and woke up aroung 6pm then ..shower at 8pm will sleep soon after posting this..heheh have a good night!! dreaming for my strawberries..ahihihi..

(..huhhu suffering for terrible back pain..will post my pictures next time)

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men’s room

grabe!! unforgettable experience talaga..haha I went to SM Homeworld this afternoon when i noticed my slipper was shattered..so I need to fix it immediately. so naghanap ako ng rest room…when i was there, i was wondering bakit ang mga tao do’n nagtitinginan sa akin when I realized, all are men inside the rest room?? I’m inside Men’s room? :-/ tiningnan ko ang sign board ng kabilang door to confirm.. grabe nakakahiya talaga!! nasa men’s roon nga ako.. so siyempre pa lumabas agad ako bago pa may makita akong hindi dapat..ahahahha

nabigla din siguro yung mga guys dun..kahit ako man din hindi ko din aklain na makakapasok ako dun..heheh

hay, sana lang hindi nila maalala ang mukha ko..RED pa naman suot ko kanina..firing squad!! tsk tsk..

I should be careful next time..that’s all guys! Ingat ingat na lang ahahaah

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GENERAL MOTORS WEIGHT LOSS DIET

The following diet and health program was developed for the employees and the dependents of General Motors Inc. (GM) was developed in conjunction with the grant from the US Department of Agriculture and the Food and Drug Administration.  It was field tested at the <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" />Johms Halhins Research Center.  And then was approved for distribution by the Board of Directors of GM Corporation at a general meeting on August 15, 1995.

GMC wholly endorsed this program and is making it available to all employees and families.  This program will be available at all GM food service facilities.  It is the management’s intention to facilitate a welfare and fitness program for everyone.

This program is designed to a target weight loss of 5-6 Kgs per week.  It will also improve your attitude and emotions because of the systematic calming effects.  The effectiveness of this seven-day plan is that the foods eaten burn more calories than they give to the body in caloric value.  This plan can be pursued as often as you like to, without any fear of complications.  It is designed to flush your system of impurities and give a feeling of wellbeing.  After seven days you will begin to feel lighter by at least 10 pounds.  You will have an abundance of energy and an improved disposition.

During the first seven days you must drink 10 glasses of water each day.

DAY ONE:
All fruits except bananas.  Your first day will consist of all fruits you want.  It is suggested that you consume lots of melons the first day, especially watermelon and cantaloupe.
Result:
You are preparing your system for the upcoming program.   Your only source of nutrition is fresh fruits.  Fruits are nature’s perfect food; they provide everything you can possibly want to sustain life except total balance and variety.

DAY TWO:
All vegetables.  You are encouraged to eat until you are stuffed with all raw and cooked vegetable of your choice.  There is no limit on the amount and type.  Avoid oil and coconut while cooking vegetable.  Have a large boiled potato for breakfast.
Result:
System starts its functioning, with a fixed complex carbohydrates in the form of boiled potato.  This is taken in the form of boiled potato and taken in the morning to provide energy and balance.  The rest of the day too consists of vegetables, which are virtually calorie free and provide essential nutrients and fiber.


DAY THREE:
Any combination of fruits and vegetables of your choice.  Any amount, any quantity.  No bananas yet, no potatoes today.

You have eliminated the potatoes because you get carbohydrates from fruits.  Your system is now prepared to start burning excess pounds.  You will have cravings, which should start to diminish by day four.


DAY FOUR:
Banana and milk.  Today you will eat as many as eight bananas and drink three glasses of milk.  You can also have 1 bowl of vegetable soup.
Result:
Bananas and milk.  You are in for a surprise.  You probably will not be able to eat all the bananas allowed.  But they are there for the potassium you have lost and the sodium you may have missed the last three days.  You will desire loss of desire for sweets and you will be surprised at how easy this day will go.

DAY FIVE:
Today is a feast day.  You will eat 1 cup of rice.  You will also have to eat six tomatoes and drink 12 glasses of water today to cleanse your system of the excess uric acid you will be producing.
Result:
Rice and tomatoes.  The rice is for the carbohydrates and the tomatoes are for the digestion and the fiber.  Lots and lots of water to purify your system.  You may notice colorless urine today.  Do not feel you have to eat one cup of rice, you may eat less.  But you must eat six tomatoes.
Result:

DAY SIX:
Today is another all vegetables day.  You must eat 1 cup of rice today and eat all the vegetables you want cooked and uncooked to your heart content.
Result:
It is similar to day five.  Your body will derive vitamins and fibers from the vegetables and carbohydrates from the rice.  By now your system is in a total weight loss inclination.  There should be a noticeable difference in the way you look today compared to day one.


DAY SEVEN:
Today you food intake will consist of 1 cup of rice, fruit juice and the vegetables you care to consume.  Tomorrow morning you will weigh five to eight kg lighter than one week ago.  If you desire further weight loss, repeat the program again.  Repeat the program as often as you like.  However, it is suggested that you rest for three days before every repetition.

You will have your system under control now and it will thank you for all the purging and cleaning you just gave it.  Even more than a diet program, it is good to follow this diet once in a while to clean your digestive system and remove toxic substances that has accumulated in the system.
Result:
You may celebrate today with Champagne.  You can have white wine instead of champagne, but in all practical programs and in all surveys done to measure the success of the program GM employees have always preferred Champagne to white wine.

Additional Comments:

1.       The most important element of the program is the 10 tall glasses of water a day.  You can also flavor the water with some lemon to make the drink easier.

2.       More than one cup of coffee with milk especially forbidden.  Milk and oil add empty calories to your diet.  Avid coffee lovers can console themselves with black coffee.  However, this intake will help you after first week to help you for better digestion and set your stomach.  So during the program, take only black coffee and never more than one teaspoon of oil.  Preferably, do not use oil because of high caloric content.  No fruit juices before day seven.

The key thing is you should not feel hungry any time during this program.  If so, then you are not following the diet correctly.  Almost all people give up when they are hungry because of dieting.  The secret of this program is that you should never be hungry.  If it is vegetable day, eat as much vegetables as you can, so that you don’t feel hungry.  If it is fruits day, eat as much fruits as possible.  You may feel bored to eat all the vegetables and fruits but you will not feel hungry.  To sustain the hunger pang, you can have any amount of GM wonder soup on any day.  The recipe for the same is as follows:

Ingredients


Water - 22 oz
Large Onions - 6
Green peppers - 2
Whole tomatoes - 3
Cabbage - 1 small size
Celery - 1 bunch

Quantity

Add herbs and seasonings as desired.



Conclusion:

This program is highly recommended for women and men above 40 for whom excess weight is dangerous.  Excess weight, especially for women, aggravates arthritis problems and leads rapid joint decay.  Pain and joint deterioration can be lessened by weight loss as weight loss removes the stress on the knee joint.  Excess weight is the most critical factor in keeping good health and excess weight is responsible for the most problems including coronary disease, heart problems, arthritis and cancer among the other serious life threatening diseases.  Most serious health problems can be avoided by the single function of maintaining an ideal weight.  Daily mild exercise of 20 minutes is also essential.  Do not tire yourself out but being regular in your exercise and maintaining an ideal weight goes an long way and help you lead a happy healthy long life.

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A SINGLE GIRL’S GUIDE TO HUSBAND HUNTING

By : Lizette Tapia-Raquel

When I was in college, my favorite past time would be to hang out with my
girlfriends in the hallways of Palma Hall in U.P. and just watch the other
students pass by. Other than boys, the subject of our scrutiny were couples
who were H.H.W.W. You know, Holding Hands While Walking. And I remember
telling one of my best friends, Rhoda, "Mas maganda naman tayo dón
a.(referring to the girl, of course) Bakit siya may boyfriend, tayo wala!"
Actually, I was an early beginner or what some would say "maagang lumandi."I
had a boyfriend at fourteen and actually had two boyfriends in my four year
stay in highschool. My loveless years in college was just a "lull"in my
colorful lovelife. But that does not mean a lack of interest in boys. Its
just that the interest was not always mutual and I think, as I grew in
years, my standards grew too.
Looking back at my highschool years, it feels like I have wasted about half
of my time in emotions, promises, loveletters, and phonecalls that would
mean nothing years after. Fourteen-year-olds and even sixteen-year-olds are
often caught up in raging hormones and physical attraction, and mistake it
for love. Blame it on the movies and lovesongs. To some young people, at
this stage in their life, the parents become the "kontrabida", and their
disapproval over the relationship makes it, all the more, romantic. Feeling
"You and Me Against the World." I have to confess that the feelings I had
then felt real and I thought those relationships would last. But kids grow
up, change, and fall out of love, like I did. Now, I really can’t imagine
being married to either of my two highschool sweethearts.
In college, though, despite the many opportunities and tempting attractions,
I opted to stay free. (having felt shackled and chained in my past
relationships) But I guess, the wide male population in the university
helped me have a better idea of the kind of man I’d really like, "for
keeps."
I think most women initially fall for a man’s physical attributes. Deep set
eyes, perfect white teeth, a straight nose, broad shoulders and a nice butt.
Some women are really taken in by the eyes. And they will tell you that they
are the windows of the soul and you can actually tell if his love is true
through them. And I guess, a lot of them have been deceived because a man’s
hungry look for sex would be hard to tell from the look of true love.
Personally, I never did put a priority on looks in my own criteria because
chances are, he’s going to have less hair and more fat in a few years. But
I guess, if you are really concerned about improving the quality of your
race, physical attributes would be a primary factor for you.
Outward appearances can be really deceiving. Another example would be a
man’s "gentlemanly"ways. He opens the door for you and always has a ready
hand to aid you in every move you make. These are social manners the male
population of the more well-to-do kind have been trained to do. But I think
a man’s "gentle" ways are more valuable. The way he treats his mother,
siblings, co-workers, or employees will tell you if he will honor and
respect you even after many years of marriage. Look for a man who will value
you as a person and an individual. Not just a woman to be paraded for her
attractiveness and an able mother for his children.
"Man is naturally polygamous." I’ve heard it often enough but I still don’t
believe it. A man who is a lover of women while he is still single, though,
will most likely still love women even after being married. Do not fool
yourself into thinking that you are "the one" who will change him. Filipino
culture somehow seems to accept infidelity in men, almost like it is the
norm. But God gave not only women, but also men, a conscience and an
understanding for what is right and wrong. And if a man values you and is
genuinely concerned about your happiness and honor, he will be true and
faithful. And every woman deserves nothing less.
While his ability to take in much alcohol and frequent winnings at a game of
billiards can be a measure of masculinity during the dating years, better to
look for a man who hardly touches alcohol and would rather stay home and
play with the gameboy. You don’t want to be the one dodging his punches and
kicks when he is drunk. Or worse, be the widow of the man who just smashed
his car under a parked truck.
I could go on and on about the kind of man you wouldn’t want to marry - the
one who swears, cheats his boss and co-workers, hits beings weaker than
him(even if it’s just a dog), but guess you know about these already. Please
just remember that you cannot change him unless he really wants to change.
And sometimes, he really can’t, even if he wants to.
In the movie "Runaway Bride", Julia Roberts ran away from three weddings
because in those relationships, she became the woman each of those three
grooms wanted her to be, and she had this unrecognized need to search for
her true self before she can commit herself to another.
Some women get into a relationship seeking for happiness and fulfillment.
But really, we cannot depend on somebody else for our happiness. Happiness,
to me, is realizing your value as a person but at the same time accepting
your imperfections. It is to recognize that you are created by God and that
there is no other like you. And though by worldly standards we are flawed,
we can trust in our Saviour’s unconditional and perfect love. When we trust
Jesus, we know we can depend on his grace and mercy. And we don’t need a
"better half" to make ourselves "whole."
I feel also that there is a need for the women of today to be proud of their
womanhood. Some say, we now have equal rights and opportunities. But more
importantly, we should choose a man who will recognize that we are a
partner. And that the differences in roles are only for the purpose of
complementing each other and not to put one over another.
When we find our man we do not "submit" ourselves to him as if we were a
colony captured and defeated. Instead, we should expect to be treated as
ally and as an equal and continue to evolve and progress as a separate
being.
Lastly, I agree with Phil Collins’ song which says "You can’t hurry love.
No, you just have to wait." After my last relationship, I waited another
five years before I got to know my husband. And what can I say, it was worth
all the wait. There is no doubt in my mind (most of the time) that he is the
one for me and I am the one for him.

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