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…The Right One

    Somebody once told me that "Finding the right person is very hard and
very wrong…..it is best to be the right person for the one you love and
start from there… you’ll always end up disappointed when you set standards
and define a "right person" for you…and don’t rush things….’coz
somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you."

    You can never be perfect…the person you love can never be
perfect…but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your
love can be perfect through the both of you. But, no relationship is
complete without God…..that’s why we have marriage…it’s a bond not only
between you and your loved one….but also with God.

    Our relationships fail not because (s)he’s not the right person….it’s
because we expected too much and we decided on our own….let God do the
work…you may call it waiting time….but while you are waiting…pray. Let
God guide you always…He knows better.  No, He knows best.

    Love is not what you think it is…. Sometimes we mistakenly feel that
our first relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy
and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some are saying
that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for
the sake of someone very important in our life. Others are saying love is
immortal and can never be defined. When we think we’re in love the first
thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone
very special can never be taken away from us. We say this phrase "You are
the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received…" After a terrible
fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say "You are the biggest
mistake i’ve ever made for my entire life!!!!" Now, how do you say and spell
the word L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it?

    Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and
whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises like
"Forever, Till Death do us apart, etc." would end up "Never" and "We should
part ways, I’m no longer happy with you! My love for you is DEAD!!!". Many
times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to one
another freezes down to zero degree "S/He ain’t the right one. I should
probably wait for the right one to come." But the big question anyone could
not answer is "Is she/he the right one?" and "When is the right time?" That
made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right
person to come and the right time to commit? A big YES is the answer.  Don’t
be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if
you insist that you are already into it. Try to find time to really
understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you
really want in a relationship. You’re right, there is no such thing as a
perfect relationship, but !
there’s a compatible partnership that goes along
with it. If you already knew that you’re too big to fit into a small sized
t-shirt, don’t give it a try. You’ll probably break it and pay for the
damages you have made. If you knew and felt that the relationship will not
last, don’t go deeper into it. You’ll just suffer the consequences and live
like hell the rest of your life.

    It’s really hard to say goodbye though, but you can’t make it any
better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go
and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a
chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will
find that you have made the right decision and you madeit all by yourself.
More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some
reason.

    We call it love when we can’t leave someone and see them crying as we
try to let go. We are wrong, it’s just pity. We call it love when we’re too
attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and
unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstood, it’s just that we’re
too much dependent to them. We call it love when we give our whole life to
them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave no one would
accept us and our past. We are mistaken, it’s just insecurity. But no matter
what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn’t something
you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. You can’t touch it but you can
feel it in your heart. You can’t find it, but it will knock before you when
you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven,
but don’t forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the
whole
galaxy.

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LoViNg, No MaTTeR HoW HaRd tHeY tRy. i wOuLdn’T eXpeCt YoU tO uNdErsTaNd
tHat, oR eVeN BeLieVe iT, BuT tRusT Me, tHeRe aRe sOmE LoVeS tHaT DoN’t Go
aWaY. aNd MaYbE tHaT MaKeS tHeM cRaZy, BuT wE sHouLd aLL Be LucKy eNouGh tO
eNd Up wiTh sOmEboDy wHo HaS a LiTtLe oF ThaT iNsaNiTy. SoMeOnE wHo NeVeR
LeTs Go. SoMeOnE wHo cHeRisHeS YoU ForEvEr.

A Different Way to Celebrate the Holiday Season
By: Megan Bueno
2007

The true meaning of Christmas is something that we should all know. It’s the time to spend with your love ones and to give glory to the Lord by recognizing the birth of His son. There are many people out there in the world that don’t know the true meaning behind the great holiday called Christmas. It’s not all about the presents that you wake up to, or about that beautiful lighted up tree. Those are just objects that really aren’t needed. Some people are out there without homes or gifts to receive, or even a family to have by their side. Why not give instead of receive? This Christmas my family and I are celebrating it in a different way.

This Christmas Eve my family and I are having Wal-mart help us in donating stuff animals to the children at our Presbyterian Hospital. We want to give a little gift to the children that have to spend their holidays in the hospital with or without their families. No one should have to spend their holidays in the hospital, they should be in their warm and cozy home, but sometimes that’s not the case. Therefore, my family and I would like to bring Christmas to them. My brother and I are very lucky to have great parents like we do, a nice brand new home, and a great school that we get to attend too. But most of all we are very lucky to be healthy. My brother and I decided that we wanted to change our Christmas this year, and to do something that might put a smile on another child’s face. Receiving a smile from a child is the best present my brother and I could receive this year for Christmas.

Christmas should be about putting a smile on someone’s face, instead of wanting things for you. Thinking of other people and realizing how lucky and fortunate you do have it, is a great way to celebrate. There are people in this world, now as we speak, that wont have a great Christmas, but having faith in God should raise their chins up and be happy that their alive. I believe sometimes that Christmas is not understood today. People go and act crazy just to buy gifts and fight over who gets what. What my family is doing this year is such a great way to celebrate Christmas. We will have each other, and be in the company of other families as well. This Christmas will be full of love and special for my family this year. We should also keep the Lord in our thoughts this Christmas. When we give each other Christmas gifts in his name, let us remember that he has given us the sun and the moon and the stars, and the earth with its forests and mountains and oceans and all that lives and moves upon them. He has given us all green things and everything that blossoms and bears fruit and all that we quarrel about and all that we have misused. And to save us from our own foolishness, from all our sins, he came down to earth and gave us himself.

In conclusion, this Christmas I think everyone should do something different and bring a smile to someone’s face. It’s about being with the people you love most, and even about giving instead of receiving. Let us remember that the Christmas heart is a giving heart, a wide open heart that thinks of others first. The birth of the baby Jesus stands as the most significant event in all history, because it has meant the pouring into a sick world of the healing medicine of love which has transformed all manner of hearts for almost two thousand years… Underneath all the bulging bundles is this beating Christmas heart.

What I Think about Christmas

By: Benjamin Baesu 2007

When people think of Christmas, they think of Santa, the lights, the tree, but what do you think? In preschool I would be told of everything that people thought what Christmas was about. I thought that, but I learned something else. I still thought that Christmas was about those things, but I grew up, and said, "Maybe that is what Christmas is about." I think it is about Jesus now. People made me think the wrong thing, don’t tell anybody the wrong way, because they will try very hard to fight it. I was happy with what one of my friends said, who is about seven years old. Just a few days ago I asked them, "What do you think Christmas is about?" One answer from is older brother was ‘presents’. "No", another answer again from him "Sharing the day with your family?" I said, "A little bit of that, but what is the real thing? Come on, you guys should know this, you said you were Christians." Finally his little brother said that it was about Jesus being born. How come the older person didn’t know it and the younger did? Why can’t people know that? When I think of Christmas, I think of that stuff, and it is because they get those lies stuck in your head. But if they didn’t get those lies stuck in my head, when people asked me what I think when I think of Christmas, I’ll tell them I think a manger, and a donkey, and I think of Mary and Joseph’s face when they saw their little baby Jesus. But even now, where it is not like that, if people asked me to tell them, I would tell them what I think Christmas is really about, from the angel Gabriel, to the little manger in the small town of Bethlehem. I don’t believe in Santa, or the light, or anything else, because every holiday has a beginning, and it is because the world had a beginning, so that means everything, even holidays, have beginnings. How did Santa get started, what about the missile toe, or the gifts, or anything else like that? What about the real meaning? We celebrate Christmas because Jesus was born. Is that what you think? Do believe this, or do you believe about the other one that I do not believe in, or how about both? I think that one day, a Virgin named Mary got a message from an Angel that she will have a baby and should name him Jesus. The Earthly father was Joseph and they both went to Bethlehem while Marry was pregnant, and she was riding on the donkey, and Joseph was walking. When they got to the little town, they had to place to stay, so they had to stay in a manger, and Jesus was born with all those animals right there, and three wise men gave him some gifts, and the shepherds came to see the little baby. Isn’t that what Christmas is really about? Some people heard about it, but don’t believe it, so the turn Christmas to Xmas. If I had one wish that everyone in the world would now the true meaning of things. If that happened, everyone would not the true meaning of Christmas. When I tell people the don’t believe in God what the true meaning of Christmas is, they laugh and say “So we celebrate Christmas because one baby is born? A baby is born everyday, so now we can celebrate Christmas everyday!” But if people knew the true meaning of Christmas, then when I told them what the true meaning of Christmas is about, the would tell me that I am right instead of arguing with them until they give, but even if they do give in, they still don’t believe it, they just want to give in so he wouldn’t have to hear me argue anymore. Why can’t it be that people can just know what it is really about. Well, anyway, this essay isn’t what other people think of it, it is what I think of it, and what I think is they Jesus was born on Christmas, and the three wise men came and gave him gifts, and the shepherds came to visit him in the manger as well. Christmas is because of Jesus, and that it was I thought, think, and will always think, no matter what. The Christmas wish is the one wish that I want. That is what I think of Christmas. 

The five questions are:

1 - "What are you thinking?"
2 - "Do you love me?"
3 - "Do I look fat?"
4 - "Do you think she is prettier than me?"
5 - "What would you do if I died?"

What makes these questions so bad is that every one is guaranteed to explode into
A major argument and/or divorce if the man does not answer properly.  For example:

1) "What are you thinking?" 
The proper answer to this question, of course, is, "I’m sorry if I’ve been pensive, dear.
I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, caring, thoughtful, intelligent, beautiful
Woman you are and what a lucky guy I am to have met you."
Obviously, this statement bears no resemblance whatsoever to what the guy was really
Thinking at the time, which was most likely one of five things:
A)  Baseball
B)  Football
C)  How fat you are.
D)  How much prettier she is than you.
E)  How he would spend the insurance money if you died.

(The best answer to this stupid question came from Al Bundy, of Married With Children,
Who was asked it by his wife, Peg. "If I wanted you to know," Al said, "I’d be talking
Instead of thinking.")

The other questions also have only one right answer but many wrong answers:

2) "Do you love me?" 
The correct answer to this question is, "Yes." For those guys who feel the need
To be more elaborate, you may answer, "Yes, dear." Wrong answers include:
A)  I suppose so.
B)  Would it make you feel better if I said yes.
C)  That depends on what you mean by "love".
D)  Does it matter?
E)  Who, me?

3) "Do I look fat?" 
The correct male response to this question is to confidently and emphatically state,
"No, of course not" and then quickly leave the room. Wrong answers include:
A)  I wouldn’t call you fat, but I wouldn’t call you thin either.
B)  Compared to what?
C)  A little extra weight looks good on you.
D)  I’ve seen fatter.
E)  Could you repeat the question? I was thinking about your insurance policy. 

4) "Do you think she’s prettier than me?" 
The "she" in the question could be an ex-girlfriend, a passer-by you were staring
At so hard that you almost caused a traffic accident or an actress in a movie you
Just saw. In any case, the correct response is, "No, you are much prettier."
Wrong answers include:
A)  Not prettier, just pretty in a different way.
B)  I don’t know how one goes about rating such things.
C)  Yes, but I bet you have a better personality.
D)  Only in the sense that she’s younger and thinner.
E)  Could you repeat the question? I was thinking about your insurance policy.

5) "What would you do if I died?"   
Correct answer: "Dearest love, in the event of your untimely demise, life would
Cease to have meaning for me and I would of course hurl myself under the front
Tires of the first Domino’s Pizza truck that came my way." This might be the
Stupidest question of the lot, as is illustrated by the following stupid joke:

"Dear," said the wife. "What would you do if I died?"
"Why, dear, I would be extremely upset," said the husband.
"Why do you ask such a question?"
"Would you remarry?" persevered the wife.
"No, of course not, dear" said the husband.
"Don’t you like being married?" said the wife.
"Of course I do, dear" he said.
"Then why wouldn’t you remarry?"
"All right," said the husband, "I’d remarry."
"You would?" said the wife, looking vaguely hurt.
"Yes" said the husband.
"Would you sleep with her in our bed?" said the wife after a long pause.
"Well yes, I suppose I would." replied the husband.
"I see," said the wife indignantly. "And would you let her wear my old clothes?"
"I suppose, if she wanted to" said the husband.
"Really," said the wife icily. "And would you take down the pictures of me and
Replace them with pictures of her?"
"Yes. I think that would be the correct thing to! do."
"Is that so?" said the wife, leaping to her feet. "And I suppose you’d let her play
With my golf clubs, too."
"Of course not, dear," said the husband. "She is left-handed."

HARD HABIT TO BREAK
I guess I thought you’d be here forever
Another illusion I chose to create
You don’t know what ya got until it’s gone
And I found out just a little too late

I was acting as if you were lucky to have me
Doin’ you a favor I hardly knew you were there
But then you were gone and it was all wrong
Had no idea how much I cared

Now being without you takes a lot of getting used to
Should learn to live with it but I don’t want to
Living without you is all a big mistake
Instead of getting easier it’s the hardest thing to take
I’m addicted to ya babe you’re a hard habit to break

You found someone else you had every reason
You know I can’t blame you for runnin’ to him
Two people together but living alone
I was spreading my love too thin

After all of these years i’m still tryin’ to shake it
Doin’ much better they say that it just takes time
But deep in the night it’s an endless flight
I can’t get ya out of my mind

Now being without you takes a lot of getting used to
Should learn to live with it but I don’t want to
Living without you is all a big mistake
Instead of getting easier it’s the hardest thing to take
I’m addicted to ya babe you’re a hard habit to break

Being without you takes a lot of getting used to
Should learn to live with it I don’t want to
Being without you is all a big mistake
Instead of getting any easier it’s the hardest thing to take
I’m addicted to you you’re a hard habit to break

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The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you - depending on how you respond to them. Unfortunately, most people fail to see how God wants to use problems for good in their lives.

They react foolishly and resent their problems rather than pausing to consider what benefit they might bring. Here are five ways God wants to use the problems in your life:

1.)    God uses problems to DIRECT you.

      Sometimes God must light a fire under you to get you moving. Problems often point us in a new direction and motivate us to change. Is God trying to get your attention? "Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways."

2.) God uses problems to INSPECT you.

        People are like tea bags…if you want to know what’s inside them, just drop them into hot ever water! Has God tested your faith with a problem? What do problems reveal about you? "When you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience."

3.) God uses problems to CORRECT you.

        Some lessons we learn only through pain and failure. It’s likely that as a child your parents told you not to touch a hot stove. But you probably learned by being burned. Sometimes we only learn the value of something… health, money, a relationship. … by losing it. "It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws."

4.) God uses problems to PROTECT you.

        A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents you from being harmed

by something more serious. Last year a friend was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem - but it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year later when management’s actions were eventually discovered. "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good…

5.) God uses problems to PERFECT you.

         Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. God is far more interested in your character than your comfort. Your relationship to God and your character are the only two things you’re going to take with you into eternity. "We can rejoice when we run into problems… they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady."

Here’s the point:
      God is at work in your life - even when you do not recognize it or understand it. But it’s much easier and profitable when you cooperate with Him. "Success can be measured not only in achievements, but in lessons learned, lives touched and moments shared along the way". Touch a heart, leave a hope, stroke a faith and lend a hand. Live simply, expect little, and give much. Fill your life with love. Scatter sunshine. Forget self, think of others……….
      Pray for Peace, Love and Joy. Pray that these words be received into the hearts of every eye that sees it.