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I  have been in love… i did get my heart broken at some point in my life…and most of all i do have experienced the so called unrequited love…

This four letter words can be bittersweet… it can be the most magical thing we can experience or worst it can be the cause of the most painful agony, for a myriad of reasons… i can definitely say that i am very fortunate to have experienced falling in love… those who had the feeling to love are so fortunate. as an excerpt from a famous line “It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.” but letting go and moving on is not quite that easy… definitely difficult and too painful a process to undergo with… in fact it can drive one to distraction that they neglect their responsibilities, lose reason, sink into depression or worse contemplate ending it all…

The big question is: how does one mend a broken heart?…

Heartbreak is one of the most unusual kinds of pain… there are no physical injuries that you can attribute it to… No visible scars, no wounds that we can procure to heal… nothing at all… It’s a huge emotional and mental pain that can be quite debilitating and triggers other emotions in us… Like most things that are important, it takes time… Time does heal - most wounds. But recognize that it is a process, partly that is within your control and the rest is up to chance and circumstance…

As for handling a heartbreak and learning to accept the fact that a guy does not love you the way you love him is the greatest enigma of every failure in a relationship… or if there is a relationship that we can call… what if its just a one way affair…. sad to say but thats the very common scenario we’re looking at in 7 out of 10 failures in every relationship… we, mostly girls, can’t challenge ourselves to accept that it is over, and that it didn’t work or that the person we trusted the most with our heart has let us down… there is a short period where we are allowed to be in denial, so that we may go over the relationship and try to look at it slightly distanced… reality bites and its very painful but we have to accept it….

Healing, letting go, accepting and moving on, all but have the same denominator- all ends well in good time… we may feel that maybe, just maybe, that it was all a misunderstanding and that the object of our affection will come back and say, “I think i made a mistake. give me another chance.” If two months have passed and this has not happened yet, then it’s time to be brave and face reality.he’s not coming back…

I can now come into the conclusion that it is over, that i can start picking up the tiny million pieces of my heart, though no one heard the ear-piercing sound of it breaking but me…

Losing the person you loved the most, losing your heart, losing the dream of spending the rest of your life happily ever after with this wonderful human being is the hardest part of acceptance… living all along in the fairy tale fantasy of your imaginable creation…. you can express this inexplicable pain in your chest that seems to dominate every other feeling in your body. crying- thats the only remorseful thing you can do… and thats the only thing i can do…

Acceptance may be the last part of conquering your heartbreak…that when you start accepting the fact that he’s not the one…that he’s not meant to be, you may continue living and conquering your fears of not finding that one love again…. love may not be there all the time but as you go along in this world of weary heart and lost soul we can now start a new life with a new love….

“Conclusion: STOP FALLING IN LOVE WITH THE WRONG PERSON…”

What are you going to do when thieves strike? I have not tried this honestly but who knows? It might save your life!  But i ‘ll try to ask someone from the bank if I can.

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When a thief forces you to take money from the ATM, do not argue or resist.
You might not know what he or she might do to you. What you should do is
to punch your PIN in the reverse mode.

I.e. if your PIN # is 1254, you punch 4521.The moment you punch in the reverse
mode, the money will come out, but will be stuck into the machine half way out
and it will alert the Police (security) without the notice of the thief. Every ATM
has it; it is specially made to signify danger and help. Not everyone is aware of this.                                              
                                                                          
Forward this to all your loved ones, friends and those you care about.

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Laziness may appear attractive, but work gives satisfaction. - Anne Frank

I go diretly to the gym right after work only to find out my intructor is still on leave.He’s still sick according to the receptionist. So I went home. My house is just a block away from the gym so I usually walk on my way home.

When I just about to cross the street as cars passing through in front of me, two dogs barking behind and suddenly felt a sense of danger. As immediate reaction, I cross the street not minding the cars passing because i felt the dogs are about to bite me. One of the dogs even followed running towards me as I looked back and I almost hit by a car coming to my right side. Instantly I said “God please take good care of me” with all my heart. Sincerely uttering these words many many times. My heart beats so fast that I could not easily breath. Maybe my heart stopped for awhile.  I thought I am going to die this way but God saved me. I noticed one car coming from my left  passing behind me trying to scare the dog whose chasing me and I am just so lucky the dog was not able to cross the street and bite me. If not, maybe I am now in hospital or maybe dead now but thank you GOd that you’ve never failed to save me in any urgent matters happening around me.

I’ll be very careful now and will never take advantage any situation.Grrrrr..learned my lesson.

Thank you God and I love you.

I want to share my thoughts I got this morning and i hope everyone feel free to give comments on this.

Question:
When or how we can actually decide helping is healthy or not in boyfriend-girlfriend relationship?

Given that each one of us has this “pusong mamon” whenever we heard someone pity or in need…much more if that person asked for your help was your -ex. Would you consider helping that person considering you have a girlfriend/boyfriend? Would you lend a hand to your -ex?

Being faithful to your current partner you decided to inform the situation in order to avoid mistrust in the relationship.

Of course in the back of your mind, you expect him/her to understand. But it didn’t turn out that way. He/she is thinking that something might happen if you get involve in your -ex again. Who knows?

Feelings thats once shared before has the possibilty to be lit up again.   What if your partner is out of your sight at the moment and your -ex is just right next to you..do you think nothing will happen? Oh come on!

In my perspective, there is nothing wrong of helping anyone especially those people who are once became part of your life. But you always have to consider also the feelings and opinions of your partner.

If you really feel pity to your -ex, then make a way that both of you and your partner will not directly involve in helping process.You can always ask someone to help you.

Do not make unnecessary move that could ruin your relationship with your partner kung ayaw mo nang sakit ng ulo.. This is one of the causes of break-ups. Once trust is no longer there, it’s hard to rebuild it again. You’ll be paranoid every now and then. Always has this doubts whenever he/she is out of your sight. Nagging is one of the symptoms. Hate it!

It is very hard to be in a relation when evrythings gone wrong because of wrong decisions. So it is wise enough to think it over and over before you act. And whatever the outcome, just  be ready for it.

OMG!!! Swine flu hit HongKong again! After SARS here comes this severe flu..pano na HK ko huhuhu..I planned this trip for a long time and this is my chance then suddenly…ggrrr

Jaqi, I think we have to postponed our trip. Virus is in Asia now so we have to be careful. Life is more precious to me.

Hay, if you want to see more of the details click the link below..

Hong Kong isolates hotel after 1st swine flu case
By DIKKY SINN and MIN LEE,Associated Press Writers AP - Saturday, May 2, HONG KONG - Hong Kong quarantined hundreds of hotel guests and workers Friday after a tourist from Mexico tested positive for swine flu, Asia’s first confirmed case of the disease. With memories of 2003’s deadly SARS outbreak still fresh, the government moved quickly to track those exposed to the infected man and contain the potential spread of the disease.

It was late in the evening,11 pm Friday April 17, 2009 to be exact when i received a call from a friend. I felt nervous and excited when i answered it. When a different person speaking to me saying “hello” repeatedly on the other line, when i did not answer him. I was occupied thinking who is this guy?

I managed to composed myself and said “hello” back. Then he introduced himself. From the tone of his voice, I can say he is a lighthearted friendly humane. Yes i know this guy but never met him in person or talked to him before. I only knew that he exist. A couple of pictures as an evidence. Hahah i never felt interested talking to a total stranger.

A dear friend of mine, then, had the phone informing to visit me tonight for a small get together and wants to introduce me this friend. I refused at first..freaking out for it’s already midnight and was so tired to entertain guests in the house. I need rest but convinced after several minutes of bolahan !

Arriving in 30 minutes! Thirty minutes to get all done. I was literally in a hurry trying to clean my room with all my kalat! I took bath and dress appropriately. Black blouse and white decent shorts. And yes i did use my favorite perfume to smell nice..hahaha

When they arrived I was prepared. My friend and the stranger. His name was taken from the famous painter the rival of Italian painter who paint Mona Lisa. (hmm..myserious hihihi)

I offered them juices and my favorite Royal Dansk cookies!

My first impression to him was right. He is a friendly lighthearted person. Likes to laugh. With sense of humor,intelligent and unbelievably handsome like my friend. Bubbly. Here’s the catch…he is ‘9 years old and taken wahahaha. He is now my friend and glad to know him.

Did you enjoy the story? ahihihi..
Thank you for reading..

lovelots,
Cessi

The Will of GOD will never take you where The Grace of GOD will not protect.

This is so neat. I have never heard this before. This is beautiful - and it is surely worth making the 5 finger prayer a part of our lives.

1. Your thumb is nearest you. So begin your prayers by praying for those closest to you They are the easiest to remember. To pray for our loved ones is, as C. S. Lewis once said, a ’sweet duty.’

2. The next finger is the pointing finger. Pray for those who teach, instruct and heal. This includes teachers, doctors, and ministers. They need support and wisdom in pointing others in the right direction. Keep them in your prayers.

3. The next finger is the tallest finger. It reminds us of our leaders. Pray for the president, leaders in business and industry, and administrators. These people shape our nation and guide public opinion. They need God’s guidance.

4. The fourth finger is our ring finger. Surprising to many is the fact that this is our weakest finger, as any piano teacher will testify. It should remind us to pray for those who are weak, in trouble or in pain. They need your prayers day and night. You cannot pray too much for them.

5. And lastly comes our little finger - the smallest finger of all which is where we should place ourselves in relation to God and others. As the Bible says, ‘The least shall be the greatest among you.’ Your pinkie should remind you to pray for yourself. By the time you have prayed for the other four groups, your own needs will be put into proper perspective and you will be able to pray for yourself more effectively.

If you decide to send this to a friend, you might brighten someone’s day! Pass this on to someone special. I did..

Don’t tell God how big your storm is, Tell the storm how big your God is!!!!!

I never thought that today March 30, 2009 would be my worst and miserable day of my entire life as ever. It never came in to my mind that i ll be ever feeling this way and treated this way to the point it humiliate me.

Shock.Speechless.Numb’ness. Disgusted. I even puked in the toilet!That’s what i felt at this moment. When I opened the attachments and read the two emails that I received.I couldn’t think clearly. I don’t even cry. I asked my self, WHY?

I could not think of any ways to forgive and forget. Or, I don’t even think I could do that.

I asked the person to tell me the truth but I only heard hopeless lies.
How can I trust that person one more time?

If only committing suicide is not a SIN and CRIME to our SAviour, I would’ve been died at this moment. But I fear HIM great so I think I’ll be fine.

I urge everyone to vote in the “world’s first global election” by switching off their lights on Saturday, March 28, 2009; 8:30 – 9:30 PM against the growing threat of global warming.

Over 74 countries and territories worldwide have signified their commitment to “VOTE EARTH” during Earth Hour and that the number is growing by the day, the Earth Hour website (http://www.earthhour.org…) stated.

“We all have a vote, and every single vote counts. Together we can take control of the future of our planet, for future generations,” the website added.

Saturday, Mar 21, 2009 3:29PM [Report]
Hi Van Ness,

I read your recent Blog and sounds like you’ve been waiting for someone special to spend the rest of your life in the future. Being famous and all you still feel alone..well I deeply and heartily pray to Jesus for your happiness and that soon you ll meet the love of your life..

I don’t know if you have time to read your mails from fans out there including me for there are lots i guess..nevertheless, i am always your avid supporter.love your works..so hopefully i ll be able to visit Taiwan soon and chance to bump somewhere with you..hahahah love to see you in the future..

God Bless!

–Cessi