I Have Been In Love
I have been in love… i did get my heart broken at some point in my life…and most of all i do have experienced the so called unrequited love…
This four letter words can be bittersweet… it can be the most magical thing we can experience or worst it can be the cause of the most painful agony, for a myriad of reasons… i can definitely say that i am very fortunate to have experienced falling in love… those who had the feeling to love are so fortunate. as an excerpt from a famous line “It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.” but letting go and moving on is not quite that easy… definitely difficult and too painful a process to undergo with… in fact it can drive one to distraction that they neglect their responsibilities, lose reason, sink into depression or worse contemplate ending it all…
The big question is: how does one mend a broken heart?…
Heartbreak is one of the most unusual kinds of pain… there are no physical injuries that you can attribute it to… No visible scars, no wounds that we can procure to heal… nothing at all… It’s a huge emotional and mental pain that can be quite debilitating and triggers other emotions in us… Like most things that are important, it takes time… Time does heal - most wounds. But recognize that it is a process, partly that is within your control and the rest is up to chance and circumstance…
As for handling a heartbreak and learning to accept the fact that a guy does not love you the way you love him is the greatest enigma of every failure in a relationship… or if there is a relationship that we can call… what if its just a one way affair…. sad to say but thats the very common scenario we’re looking at in 7 out of 10 failures in every relationship… we, mostly girls, can’t challenge ourselves to accept that it is over, and that it didn’t work or that the person we trusted the most with our heart has let us down… there is a short period where we are allowed to be in denial, so that we may go over the relationship and try to look at it slightly distanced… reality bites and its very painful but we have to accept it….
Healing, letting go, accepting and moving on, all but have the same denominator- all ends well in good time… we may feel that maybe, just maybe, that it was all a misunderstanding and that the object of our affection will come back and say, “I think i made a mistake. give me another chance.” If two months have passed and this has not happened yet, then it’s time to be brave and face reality.he’s not coming back…
I can now come into the conclusion that it is over, that i can start picking up the tiny million pieces of my heart, though no one heard the ear-piercing sound of it breaking but me…
Losing the person you loved the most, losing your heart, losing the dream of spending the rest of your life happily ever after with this wonderful human being is the hardest part of acceptance… living all along in the fairy tale fantasy of your imaginable creation…. you can express this inexplicable pain in your chest that seems to dominate every other feeling in your body. crying- thats the only remorseful thing you can do… and thats the only thing i can do…
Acceptance may be the last part of conquering your heartbreak…that when you start accepting the fact that he’s not the one…that he’s not meant to be, you may continue living and conquering your fears of not finding that one love again…. love may not be there all the time but as you go along in this world of weary heart and lost soul we can now start a new life with a new love….
“Conclusion: STOP FALLING IN LOVE WITH THE WRONG PERSON…”
